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  1. Alex

    Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites

    He's probably a normal* guy, just like you or any others on this forum, watching his girlfriend flirting with another man who's now planning to seduce her. * For a given value of 'normal' in this place, naturally.
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    Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites

    Ha! No such thing as a perfect man or woman. But if this one will cheat on her boyfriend with Joe, she'll cheat on him with someone else. If he's OK with that, carry on. From his previous posts, I get the impression he wouldn't be.
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    Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites

    Sure, I have no problem with the part in bold. But Joe's question could be rephrased as, "How can I take this woman away from her boyfriend?" I'm saying think carefully before doing that. Karma's a bitch.
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    Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites

    I wasn't being existential. Much of this thread and elsewhere on this site rants about female hypergamy and its downsides for men, yet the last few pages are explicitly encouraging it. This is self-destructive behaviour and will end badly - but not for the woman concerned. Sometimes I despair of men.
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    Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites

    Why are you bothering with any of this? If you 'succeed' you'll get attached to her and then in six months time she'll do exactly the same thing to you that she's doing to her boyfriend now. Why encourage such behaviour? Just walk away and save yourself the hassle - and maintain your dignity. Stick to single women.
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    Dropping dead at marathons

    I'm 47 and no problems at all, but I expect there's a significant genetic component to it. Some people probably need to stretch, some don't. I've never broken a bone or had any serious injuries either, despite motorbike crashes, snowboarding wipeouts, etc. Will probably keel over in my sixties from something unexpected (my wider family isn't a great advert for longevity) but for now I feel fine.
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    Dropping dead at marathons

    I've been weightlifting for over 30 years, never stretched before or after exercise, never had any injury problems. I've heard advice from personal trainers and other gym-users over the years, starting with "Don't stretch" and going through "You must stretch or you'll die in unspecified ways!" and now slowly back to "Maybe don't stretch." I ignore them all and carry on stretchless.
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    The big mental bride thread

    My wedding cost under £150, and that was for the registry office (we got a late cancellation!) and some flowers. Reception was at my wife's uncle's house, my mum and aunts did the food, can't recall what we did about drink but there was plenty. About 40 people, I think, everyone we knew and cared about. Lovely day. Honeymoon was a weekend in Norfolk because I was starting a new job the following week. Location didn't really matter to us but it was sunny. Still married 24 years later. Seen many friends' marriages fall by the wayside regardless of scale of wedding, but more spent does seem to equate to earlier divorce. And yes, weddings are all about the brides: men don't care.
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    Lease everything

    I guess that's part of the point - what are the better things in life? I've owned cheap cars and expensive cars. Once the initial rush wears off, I got no significant pleasure from owning the expensive ones, much preferred the older, cheaper ones that I could repair myself and leave in a car park without worrying about damage. Marketing is geared to telling you that expensive equals better, and in some cases it's true, but I'd prefer to have something that's old, good and cheap than new, expensive and crap (and often with designed obsolescence or significant ongoing costs). Leasing expensive things puts you in the trap of going right up to your monthly limit to maintain a 'lifestyle' that has little or nothing to do with your internal life satisfaction. It also means you can't take advantage of compound interest and capital opportunities, as mentioned above. I spend money on things that will last and experiences I will remember. For anything else, I buy the cheapest I can because ultimately it makes no difference to my self-esteem or happiness. My ultimate purchase is always time - time to do my own thing, time not working, time enjoying myself. Leasing an expensive car or other item for the sake of image (which it usually is, since rational product evaluation before purchase is rare) strikes me as a mental health issue. There's a lot of freedom to be had once you get off the hedonic treadmill. That in itself is worth the effort of making packed lunches - for some.
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    Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites

    Looks like a branding exercise aimed at women. It's probably quite effective.
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    The Germany is fucked thread

    Yes, I've been loudly tutted at by old ladies for doing this myself. They are Borg in some respects, which is another reason why I don't think a repeat of '39 onward is out of the question. Poles and Germans have a lot in common, which is partly why they still hate each other, history notwithstanding. Polish bureaucracy aspires to be German but only manages it in moronic complexity, not efficiency. Poles have the edge on Catholicism-derived insanity, though not by much. Both nationalities start from the principle of hating and mistrusting strangers, even of their own nationality; again I think Poles have the edge there.
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    The Germany is fucked thread

    Could it have been a language issue? I have the bunny-in-the-headlights reaction sometimes when I'm spoken to in German. It's handy to be able to push one of the kids to the fore to deal with it, as they've absorbed the language like a sponge. I'm not proud of it but there's only so many times you can say, "Leider, spreche ich nur ein bisschen Deutsch."
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    The Germany is fucked thread

    Guilt is a big part of it. Remember the Harry Enfield sketches about the German tourist? "I vish to apologise for zer behaviour of my compatriots during ze vor." They are taught in school about their past, which is understandable, but from friends I've spoken to, the kids are deliberately loaded down with guilt for what their grandparents' generation did. They (at least some of them) grow up feeling they must make amends by welcoming all non-Germans with open arms. When I learned about this approach, it seemed clear to me that at some point it would backfire horrendously. Nothing I've seen so far of German behaviour leads me to believe that the society has changed fundamentally in the past 100 years. The drive for 'Ordnung' is still a powerful force. The Jews didn't fit in to the Germans' view of themselves and so were efficiently removed. I've no doubt something similar could happen again.
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    The Germany is fucked thread

    Doch... Ich wohne in Berlin, deshalb: "Du bist so hell..." Kein Respekt hier. For non-German speakers on this thread, my hovercraft is full of eels.
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    The Germany is fucked thread

    The schools were in Schöneberg and Gesundbrunnen. Vielen Dank for the links. Where did you move to?