Van Lady

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    Van Lady got a reaction from JFK in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    I didn’t know he had no fatherly instincts until after the kids were born.
    He wanted the kids initially or should I say said he did.....he didn’t seem bothered about their day to day welfare. No interest in school meetings,taking them to activities, phoning them regularly etc
    He was a skilled joiner and came from a settled and comfortable financially family. Better off than my family financially I would say but different outlooks on life from each family.
    Earned a fair amount of money and able to hide it.
    The house was a very sore point in the break up. It was a very desirable roomy cottage in a nice coastal village. His parents owned it and sold it to us at market value. I provided the deposit of a third of the cost and obtained the mortgage as a bank employee in my own right but it was put in joint names. When he got his girlfriend and left both him and his family wanted “their” house back. After it was put in my name I sold it six years later. It was purchased for £36k in 1990 and sold in 2015 for £186k so that didn’t go down too well with. Such is life!
    Edit...the house was sold in 2005 not 2015. His parents owned it outright when they sold it to us so would have been a nice profit for them! I had two kids aged 11 and 12 plus struggling financially so I moved to a cheaper place and reduced my mortgage.
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    Van Lady got a reaction from The Idiocrat in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    I didn’t know he had no fatherly instincts until after the kids were born.
    He wanted the kids initially or should I say said he did.....he didn’t seem bothered about their day to day welfare. No interest in school meetings,taking them to activities, phoning them regularly etc
    He was a skilled joiner and came from a settled and comfortable financially family. Better off than my family financially I would say but different outlooks on life from each family.
    Earned a fair amount of money and able to hide it.
    The house was a very sore point in the break up. It was a very desirable roomy cottage in a nice coastal village. His parents owned it and sold it to us at market value. I provided the deposit of a third of the cost and obtained the mortgage as a bank employee in my own right but it was put in joint names. When he got his girlfriend and left both him and his family wanted “their” house back. After it was put in my name I sold it six years later. It was purchased for £36k in 1990 and sold in 2015 for £186k so that didn’t go down too well with. Such is life!
    Edit...the house was sold in 2005 not 2015. His parents owned it outright when they sold it to us so would have been a nice profit for them! I had two kids aged 11 and 12 plus struggling financially so I moved to a cheaper place and reduced my mortgage.
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    Van Lady reacted to Malthus in Fuckin' Weather   
    After the shittiest May and start of June for many years summer has arrived 
    Lovely evening 

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    Van Lady got a reaction from Sucralose Ray Leonard in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    Everyone is selfish to varying degrees. It’s a harsh world! For the record I think that people should think about the balance between their own needs in life in comparison to those around them who require care or help. Some people will suck the life out of others .....energy vampires.........
    From my observations over the years IMO it’s the female sex overall who are less selfish and spend many hours of their time in comparison to the male sex caring for other folk e.g. kids, elderly relatives and sometimes friends or acquaintances
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    Van Lady got a reaction from swiss_democracy_for_all in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    I didn’t know he had no fatherly instincts until after the kids were born.
    He wanted the kids initially or should I say said he did.....he didn’t seem bothered about their day to day welfare. No interest in school meetings,taking them to activities, phoning them regularly etc
    He was a skilled joiner and came from a settled and comfortable financially family. Better off than my family financially I would say but different outlooks on life from each family.
    Earned a fair amount of money and able to hide it.
    The house was a very sore point in the break up. It was a very desirable roomy cottage in a nice coastal village. His parents owned it and sold it to us at market value. I provided the deposit of a third of the cost and obtained the mortgage as a bank employee in my own right but it was put in joint names. When he got his girlfriend and left both him and his family wanted “their” house back. After it was put in my name I sold it six years later. It was purchased for £36k in 1990 and sold in 2015 for £186k so that didn’t go down too well with. Such is life!
    Edit...the house was sold in 2005 not 2015. His parents owned it outright when they sold it to us so would have been a nice profit for them! I had two kids aged 11 and 12 plus struggling financially so I moved to a cheaper place and reduced my mortgage.
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    Van Lady got a reaction from One percent in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    I didn’t know he had no fatherly instincts until after the kids were born.
    He wanted the kids initially or should I say said he did.....he didn’t seem bothered about their day to day welfare. No interest in school meetings,taking them to activities, phoning them regularly etc
    He was a skilled joiner and came from a settled and comfortable financially family. Better off than my family financially I would say but different outlooks on life from each family.
    Earned a fair amount of money and able to hide it.
    The house was a very sore point in the break up. It was a very desirable roomy cottage in a nice coastal village. His parents owned it and sold it to us at market value. I provided the deposit of a third of the cost and obtained the mortgage as a bank employee in my own right but it was put in joint names. When he got his girlfriend and left both him and his family wanted “their” house back. After it was put in my name I sold it six years later. It was purchased for £36k in 1990 and sold in 2015 for £186k so that didn’t go down too well with. Such is life!
    Edit...the house was sold in 2005 not 2015. His parents owned it outright when they sold it to us so would have been a nice profit for them! I had two kids aged 11 and 12 plus struggling financially so I moved to a cheaper place and reduced my mortgage.
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    Van Lady reacted to Starsend in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    You certainly got the shitty end of the stick in your case. I don't think this is typical at all nowadays though although I'm sure it still happens. Maybe men are just as selfish if allowed to be and it's just the current social climate that's allowing women to behave so badly.
    It's difficult to say and we have to be careful of assuming our own experiences are replicated on a wider scale. My observations are based on much more than just my own experience. The only thing I can be fairly sure of is that women in general are behaving far worse than men in general right now today. If society was genuinely equal in every way (for both sexes) it would be very interesting to see how my opinions might change. 
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    Van Lady reacted to stokiescum in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    Yes I do I’ve ignored one woman for about 4 /6 weeks totaly after she demanded more than a shag then last weeks shag who just tried to install herself with me for the weekend I ignored her has well she has tried to goad me by saying what a great weekend she has had by going for plan b I simply don’t care she must be aware that I don’t give much of a fuck and has invited me around for another shag lol



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    Van Lady reacted to One percent in Brexit Betrayal thread - Part 4   
    https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-48760055
    Jeremy Hunt has said the next prime minister should be someone who is trustworthy, otherwise the UK risks a general election and no Brexit.
     
    I think he has set an impossible task. Where would they find a trustworthy politician?  
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    Van Lady got a reaction from One percent in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    I would guess that the divorce process deranges most men and women. Both have self interests!
    My own divorce experience in hindsight is that being the single mother of two kids <5 resulted in a lot of personal sacrifices and extreme stress for me. Not so much for him though.
    He’s rarely seen them over twenty years and contributed minimally financially. The house was in joint names but I’d paid a third deposit plus paid the mortgage every month so it was formally put in my sole name. I continued to pay the mortgage until I paid it off with little help from him. Last time I had the misfortune to speak to him he was still saying I was a greedy money grabbing bitch 
    That was 20 years ago though and I do agree that these days women are being awarded assets that their partner has worked for/inherited or whatever. I can understand why men get annoyed about someone trying to take their life earnings off them to enhance their own life!
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    Van Lady reacted to ninjaborrower in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    In regards to the old school matriarch yes, i remember the type from childhood, been through hardtimes and very stoic etc, that attitude is no longer there in alot of women,, but people in general have become pretty selfish
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    Van Lady reacted to MrPin in Man stabbed on train   
    Wealthy and born into privilege I reckon. Science/Maths/Music is a passtime for the wealthy. Mozart might not have been such a good musician, if he had to pick turnips all day.  That chart is not a "fact" without provenance. So who will put their hand up for the "research"? Or did it just come off the internet, so "must be true". I too can pick stereotypes that "everyone knows"
    The Irish are thick
    The Scots are mean
    The Welsh have sex with animals
    All Englishmen are gay
    French don't wash
    Germans have no sense of humour.
    Just sayin....
     
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    Van Lady reacted to unregistered_guest in London murders overtake New York   
    Knife crime blamed on cuts...
    How are we supposed to come up with witty puns when the headline writer comes up with such comedy gold on what should really be a serious subject?
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    Van Lady got a reaction from Rowley in Deluded Old Scrapper Birds On Dating Sites   
    I would guess that the divorce process deranges most men and women. Both have self interests!
    My own divorce experience in hindsight is that being the single mother of two kids <5 resulted in a lot of personal sacrifices and extreme stress for me. Not so much for him though.
    He’s rarely seen them over twenty years and contributed minimally financially. The house was in joint names but I’d paid a third deposit plus paid the mortgage every month so it was formally put in my sole name. I continued to pay the mortgage until I paid it off with little help from him. Last time I had the misfortune to speak to him he was still saying I was a greedy money grabbing bitch 
    That was 20 years ago though and I do agree that these days women are being awarded assets that their partner has worked for/inherited or whatever. I can understand why men get annoyed about someone trying to take their life earnings off them to enhance their own life!
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    Van Lady reacted to BadAlchemy in Brexit Betrayal thread - Part 4   
    And another one using his real name and hometown on social media when saying that kind of stuff. "Paul Bonsor Biggleswade" already coming up in google predictive search. So much that could be found out about him if anyone actually wanted to (which I don't). Hopefully he is high up in his place of work and/or financially independent enough should that post of his backfire on him!
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    Van Lady got a reaction from BadAlchemy in Brexit Betrayal thread - Part 4   
    I wonder why paul bonsor hasn’t been banned from facebook for “hate speech” ? 
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    Van Lady got a reaction from One percent in Brexit Betrayal thread - Part 4   
    I wonder why paul bonsor hasn’t been banned from facebook for “hate speech” ? 
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    Van Lady reacted to Great Guy in Are they preparing us for the truth about Klingons, Greys and Little Green Men, Women and Self-identifying Aliens?   
    If I lived in the US I'd probably think dressing up as Big Foot and walking across remote highways was quite a fun hobby.....
    In the UK we had crop circles... Never underestimate the power of a joker....
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    Van Lady reacted to One percent in Everyday Feminism - lunatic SJWness   
    Harsh. 
    The establishment are encouraging these people who should never have gone to university to so so.  They should be encouraged to get a decent trade or work in a low skilled job.
    unfortunately for her and many like her, government has hollowed out vocational education until it is both worthless and meaningless. They have flooded the uk with cheap labour so that people cannot get a decent paying job. To double down on this further,  government have pushed up the cost of housing, again through importing massive numbers of people. These people like this young woman do not stand a chance of carving a decent life out for themselves. 
    The government should all be swinging from lampposts for what they have done to the people of this country 
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    Van Lady got a reaction from ninjaborrower in Why are the So-Called BBC such arseholes?   
    I agree.
    Unfortunately IMO it would have to be an independent researcher with means or someone with plenty of spare time who studied the redefinment of what a phobia is because academia is unlikely to allocate a grant for such a study!
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    Van Lady got a reaction from whitevanman in Why are the So-Called BBC such arseholes?   
    I agree.
    Unfortunately IMO it would have to be an independent researcher with means or someone with plenty of spare time who studied the redefinment of what a phobia is because academia is unlikely to allocate a grant for such a study!
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    Van Lady got a reaction from Byron in Two jags suffers a stroke   
    Glenys Kinnock, wife of Neil, also has a seat in the House of Lords. Their son is just like them ....all have accessed the gravy train for personal gain and don’t give a toss about the uk.