Van Lady

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    Van Lady reacted to TheBlueCat in Avoiding cancer thread   
    Spot on. I’m very, very glad to live somewhere with legal physician assisted dying.
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    Van Lady reacted to ccc in I think we'd better be going home now, Johnny!   
    If any of you black pudding lovers haven't tried Stornoway you need to. Tremendous stuff. Even some folk who hate black pudding like it when trying it. I have some of this stuff in my freezer. 

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    Van Lady reacted to Donald McFlurry in Avoiding cancer thread   
    Only thing I'll add to this is the following:
    The NHS doctors, nurses and MacMillan / Marie Curie teams for some reason have a very positive (even Prozac happy) outlook on everything. They will very rarely tell you straight what your chances of surviving after surgery, chemo etc will be and always have a tendency to favour odds of cure, no matter how far the wrong side of 50/50 it is.
    Maybe it's because there is no legal route to euthanasia in the UK. But they don't tell you how much suffering you might need to go through to prolong your life. I've seen a couple of 2 year journeys, both resulting in awful suffering and pain before the inevitable death.
    One thing I promise myself is that if I'm diagnosed with a stage 3/4 cancer then I'll be going on my own terms however illigal that still is at the time.
    The NHS do a good job and I'm not trying to take anything away from them or the people that support terminal cases. They just need to be real with people who they know damn well are about to go through a world of suffering and pain for no good reason.
    A few of the nurses told me privately that this all changed after the Harold Shipman case. Before that if you were lucky your GP would give you an overdose of morphine at home when things got to the point of unnecessary suffering.
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    Van Lady reacted to whocares in Avoiding cancer thread   
    I have wondered why there are sometimes reports of a working man's wife getting asbestosis from hugging her husband when he came home and/or just washing his work clothes, while he didn't get it. (Maybe he wore a face mask at work?) 
    Decided it's probably one of those random things where we are all exposed to some degree but only some of us are badly affected, like whether HPV sticks around to causes cancer or just gets cleared from the body by the immune system ie luck or happenstance.
    So hope that asbestos didn't stick around inside you to harm you later on.
    Seem to remember us having square asbestos heat bases for putting under our bunsen burners in school labs. (Were they actually asbestos?) We didn't grind them up ... but still. (Same with liquid mercury. Lots of poisons and carcinogens back in the day.)
    You are correct -- danger is all around.  (And we will never know what will kill us in the end.) So best to worry less and try to live more positively?
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    Van Lady reacted to whitevanman in Avoiding cancer thread   
    I know for a fact that I gave myself a big dose of asbestos dust over several weeks. Hmmm, scratchy on the throat! Didn't realise it was asbestos till later, whoops! I know quite a few people who've died from that stuff, mostly in old age from pneumonia brought about by the lung damage.
    No matter how careful you are in life something can come along and get you. 
    Live for today for tomorrow we die.
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    Van Lady reacted to Hopeful in Avoiding cancer thread   
    Think about your work exposure to cancer causing agents, in fact all work exposure to harmful substances, even when doing DIY, especially silica dust.
    I'm unusual among the general population, but one of the above reasons I changed my area of work was because of the number of chemicals that had 'carcinogen' or 'mutagen' or a trefoil on the bottle, and because of working in UK labs with inadequate H&S facilities but where every item with a plug had passed its PAT test.
    After 20 years in one field I decided that the knowledge wasn't worth the risk so changed subject. I still worry that those years will catch up with me. I know several people older than me that croaked from unusual cancers.
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    Van Lady reacted to null; in Avoiding cancer thread   
    That's a great post. Once you have seen a few people pass (other than old grandparents) and in my case a child, you see life a bit differently and place a much higher value on it. I've also had a family member pass in early 30's and couple of work friends at early 40's.
    Live life and enjoy as best you can but don't be reckless with it. I don't want to live like a vicar and get to 100, nor do I want to throw it all away by doing something daft and dying young. Like so many things in life its all about keeping a balance.
    A few years back I became very unwell. Dr sent me for chest x-ray and a few days later I got progressively worse and ended up in A&E. X-ray results came back, Dr said chest x-ray was abnormal. Could be bood clots or could be lung cancer. Sent for CT scan, Drs got results and said "good news, its definately not blood clots". Seriously, they said that was good news....
    Very long story and don't want to share too many details but in the end it turned out not to be cancer, still an untreatable disease but not likely to kill me any time soon.
    Talk about dodging a bullet. I genuinely thought that my number was up.
    The irony is that the CT scan (full chest, high resolution) statistically increased my chances of getting lung cancer.
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    Van Lady got a reaction from Ina in Avoiding cancer thread   
    Cancer is only one of many ways our lives can end.
    My approach for overall heath is to eat home cooked food from basic but best I can afford ingredients. Keep in acceptable weight for my height and walk miles every week. The social side of life for me is a bit lacking due to financial constraints but I manage to chat loads and keep interested in life.
    I’ve mainly eaten a diet based on meat, fish, dairy, veg and carbs over my lifetime. Although I’ve eaten some processed food in my life I choose to reduce the processing to what I do myself to the food these days. For a while I’ve mostly eradicated sugar and limited carbs.
    Regarding the NHS I haven’t had any tests for anything for years because I don’t trust them. 
    I smoke roll ups and before that I smoked manufactured fags. Fags twenty to forty a day and roll ups about 10 g tobacco per week. Know I shouldn’t but I quit alcohol a long time ago and quitting one thing was enough for me. I often think I’m in bonus time because until I quit alcohol at age 32 I used to think I’d never see 40. I’m 60 now and, IMO, in good health for my age. No major health problems to date and can walk miles although I’ve noticed a slowing down in energy levels over the last ten years. Not a problem IMO slowing down a bit and taking it easier is part of natural aging.
    Never forget that your life can end swiftly in a moment due to an unexpected fatal heart attack, stroke, aneurysm, accident etc.
    Live in the day, look after yourself as best as you can and try to enjoy the now.
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    Van Lady got a reaction from longtomsilver in Degree for older people?   
    That’s an interesting idea to fight back against our rulers.
    Unfortunately I’m not eligible because I’m 60 and have a 1st Class Honours degree in Psychology awarded in 2006 from the OU.
    Mine was funded due to single parent circumstances. I knew I wouldn’t be getting out much in the evening as mother to a 4&5 year old so I signed up, mainly out of interest but also a slight hope that it would improve my financial circumstances. It didn’t!
    However, I’ll never regret doing my six years degree course in psychology because it’s a fascinating subject IMO. It’s a discipline with five major perspectives about people all rooted in philosophy and history. No universal agreement among the perspectives and some outright sneering and denigrating other perspectives going on. Needless to say the scientific perspective is hegemonic with their “gold standard” evidence that other perspectives struggle to match. Follow the money!!! 
    There’s a lot of useful stuff in psychology but unfortunately the discipline is too busy arguing between perspectives rather than trying to sift through and evaluate the usefulness of theories, approaches, treatment etc. IMO all the perspectives have useful stuff to offer but other stuff less so. Major perspectives Cognitive, Biological, Social, Psychodynamic and Humanistic. Major themes Cognitivism vs Mutualism, Aristotle vs Plato. Major arguments Nature vs Nurture, What counts as evidence? Just scratching the surface.
    Anyway, if anyone takes up FH’s suggestion as a way to fight the rulers perhaps look into psychology if you want to think more about philosophy, physics, psychology, sociology, history, evolution, the unconscious mind etc and how the findings from psychology are being used/abused by the rulers it’s an interesting ride IMO.
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    Van Lady got a reaction from longtomsilver in Degree for older people?   
    That’s an interesting idea to fight back against our rulers.
    Unfortunately I’m not eligible because I’m 60 and have a 1st Class Honours degree in Psychology awarded in 2006 from the OU.
    Mine was funded due to single parent circumstances. I knew I wouldn’t be getting out much in the evening as mother to a 4&5 year old so I signed up, mainly out of interest but also a slight hope that it would improve my financial circumstances. It didn’t!
    However, I’ll never regret doing my six years degree course in psychology because it’s a fascinating subject IMO. It’s a discipline with five major perspectives about people all rooted in philosophy and history. No universal agreement among the perspectives and some outright sneering and denigrating other perspectives going on. Needless to say the scientific perspective is hegemonic with their “gold standard” evidence that other perspectives struggle to match. Follow the money!!! 
    There’s a lot of useful stuff in psychology but unfortunately the discipline is too busy arguing between perspectives rather than trying to sift through and evaluate the usefulness of theories, approaches, treatment etc. IMO all the perspectives have useful stuff to offer but other stuff less so. Major perspectives Cognitive, Biological, Social, Psychodynamic and Humanistic. Major themes Cognitivism vs Mutualism, Aristotle vs Plato. Major arguments Nature vs Nurture, What counts as evidence? Just scratching the surface.
    Anyway, if anyone takes up FH’s suggestion as a way to fight the rulers perhaps look into psychology if you want to think more about philosophy, physics, psychology, sociology, history, evolution, the unconscious mind etc and how the findings from psychology are being used/abused by the rulers it’s an interesting ride IMO.
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    Van Lady reacted to JoeDavola in Avoiding cancer thread   
    Cause of death: Multiculturalism.
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    Van Lady got a reaction from Ina in Avoiding cancer thread   
    Cancer is only one of many ways our lives can end.
    My approach for overall heath is to eat home cooked food from basic but best I can afford ingredients. Keep in acceptable weight for my height and walk miles every week. The social side of life for me is a bit lacking due to financial constraints but I manage to chat loads and keep interested in life.
    I’ve mainly eaten a diet based on meat, fish, dairy, veg and carbs over my lifetime. Although I’ve eaten some processed food in my life I choose to reduce the processing to what I do myself to the food these days. For a while I’ve mostly eradicated sugar and limited carbs.
    Regarding the NHS I haven’t had any tests for anything for years because I don’t trust them. 
    I smoke roll ups and before that I smoked manufactured fags. Fags twenty to forty a day and roll ups about 10 g tobacco per week. Know I shouldn’t but I quit alcohol a long time ago and quitting one thing was enough for me. I often think I’m in bonus time because until I quit alcohol at age 32 I used to think I’d never see 40. I’m 60 now and, IMO, in good health for my age. No major health problems to date and can walk miles although I’ve noticed a slowing down in energy levels over the last ten years. Not a problem IMO slowing down a bit and taking it easier is part of natural aging.
    Never forget that your life can end swiftly in a moment due to an unexpected fatal heart attack, stroke, aneurysm, accident etc.
    Live in the day, look after yourself as best as you can and try to enjoy the now.
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    Van Lady reacted to Ina in Avoiding cancer thread   
    It’s not just cancer. I work in Probate and read 00s of death certificates a year to the extent I’ve become obsessed.  Many of my clients die as a result of simple accidents followed by operations and then complications like DVT.  Bizarrely lots die on planes too where the place of death is always Withenshaw hospital as opposed to Manchester airport.
    That said when I first started in my job the most common cause of death was heart attack now it is cancer.
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    Van Lady got a reaction from Ina in Avoiding cancer thread   
    Cancer is only one of many ways our lives can end.
    My approach for overall heath is to eat home cooked food from basic but best I can afford ingredients. Keep in acceptable weight for my height and walk miles every week. The social side of life for me is a bit lacking due to financial constraints but I manage to chat loads and keep interested in life.
    I’ve mainly eaten a diet based on meat, fish, dairy, veg and carbs over my lifetime. Although I’ve eaten some processed food in my life I choose to reduce the processing to what I do myself to the food these days. For a while I’ve mostly eradicated sugar and limited carbs.
    Regarding the NHS I haven’t had any tests for anything for years because I don’t trust them. 
    I smoke roll ups and before that I smoked manufactured fags. Fags twenty to forty a day and roll ups about 10 g tobacco per week. Know I shouldn’t but I quit alcohol a long time ago and quitting one thing was enough for me. I often think I’m in bonus time because until I quit alcohol at age 32 I used to think I’d never see 40. I’m 60 now and, IMO, in good health for my age. No major health problems to date and can walk miles although I’ve noticed a slowing down in energy levels over the last ten years. Not a problem IMO slowing down a bit and taking it easier is part of natural aging.
    Never forget that your life can end swiftly in a moment due to an unexpected fatal heart attack, stroke, aneurysm, accident etc.
    Live in the day, look after yourself as best as you can and try to enjoy the now.
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    Van Lady got a reaction from Ina in Avoiding cancer thread   
    Cancer is only one of many ways our lives can end.
    My approach for overall heath is to eat home cooked food from basic but best I can afford ingredients. Keep in acceptable weight for my height and walk miles every week. The social side of life for me is a bit lacking due to financial constraints but I manage to chat loads and keep interested in life.
    I’ve mainly eaten a diet based on meat, fish, dairy, veg and carbs over my lifetime. Although I’ve eaten some processed food in my life I choose to reduce the processing to what I do myself to the food these days. For a while I’ve mostly eradicated sugar and limited carbs.
    Regarding the NHS I haven’t had any tests for anything for years because I don’t trust them. 
    I smoke roll ups and before that I smoked manufactured fags. Fags twenty to forty a day and roll ups about 10 g tobacco per week. Know I shouldn’t but I quit alcohol a long time ago and quitting one thing was enough for me. I often think I’m in bonus time because until I quit alcohol at age 32 I used to think I’d never see 40. I’m 60 now and, IMO, in good health for my age. No major health problems to date and can walk miles although I’ve noticed a slowing down in energy levels over the last ten years. Not a problem IMO slowing down a bit and taking it easier is part of natural aging.
    Never forget that your life can end swiftly in a moment due to an unexpected fatal heart attack, stroke, aneurysm, accident etc.
    Live in the day, look after yourself as best as you can and try to enjoy the now.
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    Van Lady reacted to Cunning Plan in The DOSBODS Weekly Weigh In   
    As I said on the new numbers only thread, I aim to lose about 20lbs in 12 weeks.
    Too busy at work so no exercise really possible.
    What I have invented is the 300gsm dinner. I cook up a load of meals, normally 100gsm rice and 200gsm of curry / chilli etc and freeze them. 
    Apart from soup for lunch, this is my food Monday to Thursday. Weekends are a free for all. Was working well until I ended up back on the wine on weeknights (seriously stressy last two weeks and this one is just as bad) which sort of negated the effect but at least kept me in a holding pattern. (Was 18lbs heavier in March at 16 stone 6lb). Surprisingly this seems to be quite enough food and I don't feel hungry. I have never been one for snacks.
    I do have a feeling that the biggest problem with most people is not what they eat but how much of it they eat. 
    Ditch the weeknight alcohol from next week and I think I can easily shed 2lbs per week in this way.
    I am working on the CCC mantra of you can't outrun a bad diet. Therefore with a good diet I shouldn't need to run.
      
     
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    Van Lady reacted to DurhamBorn in Degree for older people?   
    Thats pretty much how i see things going,with some other ups and downs of course within the longer cycle.People mistake companies with the cycle against them as just poor companies and so a huge contrarian entry point presents itself towards an inflection point.The US long bond drives all interest rates and that will start to see increases as the market sniffs the inflation.Keeping a nice balance,but leaning towards sectors that like inflation that are at multi year (or multi decade) lows.
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    Van Lady got a reaction from longtomsilver in Degree for older people?   
    That’s an interesting idea to fight back against our rulers.
    Unfortunately I’m not eligible because I’m 60 and have a 1st Class Honours degree in Psychology awarded in 2006 from the OU.
    Mine was funded due to single parent circumstances. I knew I wouldn’t be getting out much in the evening as mother to a 4&5 year old so I signed up, mainly out of interest but also a slight hope that it would improve my financial circumstances. It didn’t!
    However, I’ll never regret doing my six years degree course in psychology because it’s a fascinating subject IMO. It’s a discipline with five major perspectives about people all rooted in philosophy and history. No universal agreement among the perspectives and some outright sneering and denigrating other perspectives going on. Needless to say the scientific perspective is hegemonic with their “gold standard” evidence that other perspectives struggle to match. Follow the money!!! 
    There’s a lot of useful stuff in psychology but unfortunately the discipline is too busy arguing between perspectives rather than trying to sift through and evaluate the usefulness of theories, approaches, treatment etc. IMO all the perspectives have useful stuff to offer but other stuff less so. Major perspectives Cognitive, Biological, Social, Psychodynamic and Humanistic. Major themes Cognitivism vs Mutualism, Aristotle vs Plato. Major arguments Nature vs Nurture, What counts as evidence? Just scratching the surface.
    Anyway, if anyone takes up FH’s suggestion as a way to fight the rulers perhaps look into psychology if you want to think more about philosophy, physics, psychology, sociology, history, evolution, the unconscious mind etc and how the findings from psychology are being used/abused by the rulers it’s an interesting ride IMO.
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    Van Lady reacted to Cunning Plan in The normalisation of female obesity   
    Sorry but we really do need a picture of your wife in a pair of size 8 Daisy Duke's.
    Some of us don't get out much.
    (And no, we don't need a picture of you in them. We will take your word for it)
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    Van Lady reacted to crashmonitor in The normalisation of female obesity   
    My wife is a size 8 and picked up a pair of size 8 denim shorts from a charity shop that proved too big. According to the chart that's a 25 inch waist. Well I'm wearing them now  ( with a belt! ) and my waist is about 6" bigger than that and although I am slim, my legs aren't ( can't even start to get into skinny fit trousers with my calves and thighs). 
    There is a lot of size flattery going on.
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    Van Lady reacted to Turned Out Nice Again in Avoiding cancer thread   
    That's a good point VL, to test out not to test?
    With a colonoscopy at least they can cut out polyps on the day. But what can you do if you get a positive PSA test?
    I always thought the best approach was to assume you have cancer and start treating it *before* you get a diagnosis.
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    Van Lady reacted to Dipsy in The normalisation of female obesity   
    This has been going on for years, vanity sizing. H & M is an interesting one though as its sizing is all over the place, you can go in and pick out the same item of clothing in different colours in the same size according to the label and they are completely different sizes in reality. 
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    Van Lady reacted to stokiescum in Degree for older people?   
    try herbert spencer,ayn rand and neitzsche and anton lavey
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    Van Lady got a reaction from longtomsilver in Degree for older people?   
    That’s an interesting idea to fight back against our rulers.
    Unfortunately I’m not eligible because I’m 60 and have a 1st Class Honours degree in Psychology awarded in 2006 from the OU.
    Mine was funded due to single parent circumstances. I knew I wouldn’t be getting out much in the evening as mother to a 4&5 year old so I signed up, mainly out of interest but also a slight hope that it would improve my financial circumstances. It didn’t!
    However, I’ll never regret doing my six years degree course in psychology because it’s a fascinating subject IMO. It’s a discipline with five major perspectives about people all rooted in philosophy and history. No universal agreement among the perspectives and some outright sneering and denigrating other perspectives going on. Needless to say the scientific perspective is hegemonic with their “gold standard” evidence that other perspectives struggle to match. Follow the money!!! 
    There’s a lot of useful stuff in psychology but unfortunately the discipline is too busy arguing between perspectives rather than trying to sift through and evaluate the usefulness of theories, approaches, treatment etc. IMO all the perspectives have useful stuff to offer but other stuff less so. Major perspectives Cognitive, Biological, Social, Psychodynamic and Humanistic. Major themes Cognitivism vs Mutualism, Aristotle vs Plato. Major arguments Nature vs Nurture, What counts as evidence? Just scratching the surface.
    Anyway, if anyone takes up FH’s suggestion as a way to fight the rulers perhaps look into psychology if you want to think more about philosophy, physics, psychology, sociology, history, evolution, the unconscious mind etc and how the findings from psychology are being used/abused by the rulers it’s an interesting ride IMO.
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    Van Lady reacted to stokiescum in Degree for older people?   
    yes its interesting but the fact the experts constantly argue and seldom agree over anything does raise a cynical smile from myself,also it has trends ive noticed.you could put the gdp of europe intp phycology for a decade and still get no where.