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56 minutes ago, Economic Exile said:

I would say that the majority of people are “boring”, including me.

Most of us go to work, do our chores and pursue personal interests when we have some spare time. You know, boring things like running, gardening, walking, watch films, wood turning, art etc.

A lot of life for the masses is mundane and repetitive. IMO, these days people’s expectations about life are way too high!

 

Blame Facebook.

If you have 100 'friends', the chances are that on any given day three or four of them are on holiday or doing something exciting.

Which is what people notice. They ignore the ninety six that are doing sod all.

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2 hours ago, Cunning Plan said:

Blame Facebook.

If you have 100 'friends', the chances are that on any given day three or four of them are on holiday or doing something exciting.

Which is what people notice. They ignore the ninety six that are doing sod all.

degree of truth in that

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11 hours ago, Frank Hovis said:

Say you could go out with any of a string of great-looking women on Saturday, would you reject them in favour of the nice but average looking, full time employed, in decent shape woman you knew from school?

No.

....but I would reject any of a string of great-looking women on Saturday in favour of a nice, great looking, great shape woman I know from school.

If I have one woman I like, I tend to stick to her like glue regardless of what's on offer. Which most people would argue is more typical behaviour for a female, but I genuinely believe it's actually more typical for a male. 

 

 

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11 hours ago, JoeDavola said:

I guess the parallel one might draw for men is if a man was addicted to pornography or prostitutes, and the unlimited choice given by these made even a decent woman boring. But such a man would be mocked for being unrealistic and immature, and quite rightly so.

As for the string of Saturday dates vs the nice girl from school - well I've never had such a choice so who knows. But I'd like to think that most men would be happy with the 'woman from school' if she seemed like good long term relationship/mother-of-your-children material, and wouldn't throw that away for a series of short term flings. But hey maybe Chris Rock was right in saying that a man is only as faithful as his options!

I think another thing that causes the market imbalance is obesity rates - I'd love to see what the obesity rates are in 25-35 year old women these days vs 25-35 year old men. 

I guess what I'm wondering is that does this desire for advantage actually increase with age. So at 21 are you more likely to just get a girlfriend cause the two of you get on well, vs at 31 where you are coldly assessed against a series of criteria by a woman.

This piqued my interest, to back up my observation of the fat kid being the exception when I was at school, to seeing very few fatties at university, to seeing 20-25% of the kids in my daughters primary school overweight/obese to increasing general fattiness and alarmingly men and women in their 20s who are obese

... bit of digging around for some stats (bearing in mind they will by their nature be a bit out of date)...

http://www.cancerresearchuk.org/health-professional/cancer-statistics/risk/overweight-and-obesity#heading-Two

 

This was a particular eye-opener...

https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/613532/obes-phys-acti-diet-eng-2017-rep.pdf

(data source seems pretty robust and reliable - as much as most health surveillance data can be nowadays)

 

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Left hand side - look how Obesity has moved from ~15% in 1993 (when I was at uni) to a couple of years ago - 27%? and rising, probably 30% now.   40-odd % of the population is over/weight obese.  I think it's higher, nearly 60% from observation.

 

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So in that age range 25-44, 20-30% male and 25-30% females are obese. Jesus fucking christ just let that sink in ...

 

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21 minutes ago, Economic Exile said:

IMO because you post on Dosbods you’re probably less boring than the average person, I’m including myself in that assessment :P

i sometimes envy boreing people,the avarage person would look at me at think his life is boreing he doesnt spend all night looking at holidays or buying shit he doesnt need hell he doesnt even have a tv licence.what have i been doing today well sorting other peoples problems out yet again,the nice part of today was takeing my lodger to a blind womans house has he has a degree in it to sort her talking pc out...the slightly embarrasing part was she joked that her husband heard my flirty messages i didnt realize that it read em out on the loud speaker the last time i saw her she was only blind in one eye ffs lol.i realy dont think theres any hope for me......

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9 hours ago, montecristo said:

I remember once trying to chat up a woman in a London pub.  She asked me what I do for a living.  I said "I work in IT".  She replied "Well that's a conversation killer".  Needless to say I didn't have much success after that.  

 

I must have met around 50 women when I was doing online dating, never had single even mildly negative reaction to telling them I  worked in software. If you get a negative reaction then your delivery is off and she was just waiting for a convenient "out". For fuck sake people get some skills, get some attitude, STOP GIVING A FUCK, and stop fucking moping about with all the "I'm a coder so no girl is ever gonna kiss me" (sorry i'm tired and getting impatient).

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33 minutes ago, JFK said:

This piqued my interest, to back up my observation of the fat kid being the exception when I was at school, to seeing very few fatties at university, to seeing 20-25% of the kids in my daughters primary school overweight/obese to increasing general fattiness and alarmingly men and women in their 20s who are obese

... bit of digging around for some stats (bearing in mind they will by their nature be a bit out of date)...

http://www.cancerresearchuk.org/health-professional/cancer-statistics/risk/overweight-and-obesity#heading-Two

 

This was a particular eye-opener...

https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/613532/obes-phys-acti-diet-eng-2017-rep.pdf

(data source seems pretty robust and reliable - as much as most health surveillance data can be nowadays)

 

image.thumb.png.d2add715dde811ebde83d08bbfa2174d.png

Left hand side - look how Obesity has moved from ~15% in 1993 (when I was at uni) to a couple of years ago - 27%? and rising, probably 30% now.   40-odd % of the population is over/weight obese.  I think it's higher, nearly 60% from observation.

 

image.thumb.png.02fa5e0b5af3ab287f4083acfed2751b.png

So in that age range 25-44, 20-30% male and 25-30% females are obese. Jesus fucking christ just let that sink in ...

 

im just over 5ft 7 and this morning i was 73.5k im normaly 75  i put the loss down to dehydration caused by beer....

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6 minutes ago, JFK said:

This piqued my interest, to back up my observation of the fat kid being the exception when I was at school, to seeing very few fatties at university, to seeing 20-25% of the kids in my daughters primary school overweight/obese to increasing general fattiness and alarmingly men and women in their 20s who are obese

... bit of digging around for some stats (bearing in mind they will by their nature be a bit out of date)...

http://www.cancerresearchuk.org/health-professional/cancer-statistics/risk/overweight-and-obesity#heading-Two

 

This was a particular eye-opener...

https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/613532/obes-phys-acti-diet-eng-2017-rep.pdf

(data source seems pretty robust and reliable - as much as most health surveillance data can be nowadays)

 

image.thumb.png.d2add715dde811ebde83d08bbfa2174d.png

Left hand side - look how Obesity has moved from ~15% in 1993 (when I was at uni) to a couple of years ago - 27%? and rising, probably 30% now.   40-odd % of the population is over/weight obese.  I think it's higher, nearly 60% from observation.

 

image.thumb.png.02fa5e0b5af3ab287f4083acfed2751b.png

So in that age range 25-44, 20-30% male and 25-30% females are obese. Jesus fucking christ just let that sink in ...

 

Observing in my rural town of around 10k population those graphs don’t surprise me. Around a quarter to a third of people are obese. Females more so than males. Definetely more females.

It’s sad to see them waddling around.

I know someone, much younger than me, who was hugely offended and enraged when a doctors report started with the sentence......Mrs. XXXXX waddled into the consulting room! The person does indeed waddle instead of walk because if you’re obese you just can’t walk normally. The person just can’t accept that about being obese or refuses to see it!

Life expectancy will surely go down?

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life expectancy will go down but so far most of my friends have died from drinking if we discount moterbike accidents,one got into drugs but cheap cider actualy finished him off,though cancer is nailing the odd one now were into our 50s.2 have died from not takeing there diabities seriesly but neither was fat.a lot of school friends are obece now granted but whats worrying is the age that people are geting obece at now its realy going to cause problems but i seriesly cant see a solution its only a matter of time until calling someone a porker or a lardarse is viewed has a hate crime.

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14 minutes ago, stokiescum said:

life expectancy will go down but so far most of my friends have died from drinking if we discount moterbike accidents,one got into drugs but cheap cider actualy finished him off,though cancer is nailing the odd one now were into our 50s.2 have died from not takeing there diabities seriesly but neither was fat.

From my peer group (age 60 now) I would say that a good number have exited due to excessive alcohol, a handful from accidents or suicide but most of them have died from cancer. The last male’s funeral I attended two years ago from a sudden heart attack death was due to alcoholism. I noted that there were more obese males than females in attendance in a group of about 200.

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25 minutes ago, Economic Exile said:

From my peer group (age 60 now) I would say that a good number have exited due to excessive alcohol, a handful from accidents or suicide but most of them have died from cancer. The last male’s funeral I attended two years ago from a sudden heart attack death was due to alcoholism. I noted that there were more obese males than females in attendance in a group of about 200.

im expecting cancer to start nailing more of my peers the brother in laws brother is terminal at 55 in my local at least 60% of the regulars are obese a couple of profesional drinkers are stick thin probably eating nothing but beer

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They refurbished one of the Tesco's in Swansea last year. Part of it was putting new male and female symbols on the doors of the refurbished toilets.

Basically two fattish people. I keep thinking that I am going into the Ladies as the male symbol has this plump oblong body that looks more akin to a dress. The female symobl is plumper still.

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21 minutes ago, The Masked Tulip said:

They refurbished one of the Tesco's in Swansea last year. Part of it was putting new male and female symbols on the doors of the refurbished toilets.

Basically two fattish people. I keep thinking that I am going into the Ladies as the male symbol has this plump oblong body that looks more akin to a dress. The female symobl is plumper still.

the way societys going i dont want to live till im 80

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36 minutes ago, Economic Exile said:

From my peer group (age 60 now) I would say that a good number have exited due to excessive alcohol, a handful from accidents or suicide but most of them have died from cancer. The last male’s funeral I attended two years ago from a sudden heart attack death was due to alcoholism. I noted that there were more obese males than females in attendance in a group of about 200.

I don't think this generation will be healthier or longer lived than the last.

Two of my mates got testicular cancer at 30. I know another bloke who's 31 and on medication to treat an enlarged prostate - seems at least 20 years too young for that malarkey.

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32 minutes ago, JoeDavola said:

I don't think this generation will be healthier or longer lived than the last.

Two of my mates got testicular cancer at 30. I know another bloke who's 31 and on medication to treat an enlarged prostate - seems at least 20 years too young for that malarkey.

after burying my favrite cousin in december i actualy got some life insurence,he was 51 with a heart of gold he was totaly harmless witty,hardworking would do anything for anyone ok he was verging on morbidly obese but cancer got him.my sister droped her shifts has she correctly said fk the money after what happened to tony ,she said she would rather work 2 nights a week less than have a second holiday a year.

ive drank like a twat from 15 but on the brighside stoped smokeing 2 years ago,if i die next week at least i get a bit of revenge on the system ie it pays my morgage off.

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10 hours ago, stokiescum said:

after what happened to tony ,she said she would rather work 2 nights a week less than have a second holiday a year.

Yeah that's part of the reason I stay in my low stress job that I enjoy but isn't the highest paying one out there. The idea that I'd feel like a chump if I end up in another job where I'm miserable or chronically stressed for the sake of an extra 5 or 10K a year. I know someone in their late 50's who spent decades in a really stressful job and many of his peers died before they retired and actually got to enjoy their big pensions.

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18 minutes ago, JoeDavola said:

Yeah that's part of the reason I stay in my low stress job that I enjoy but isn't the highest paying one out there. The idea that I'd feel like a chump if I end up in another job where I'm miserable or chronically stressed for the sake of an extra 5 or 10K a year. I know someone in their late 50's who spent decades in a really stressful job and many of his peers died before they retired and actually got to enjoy their big pensions.

Working as contractor means I make various sacrifices in return for the higher pay including having to do less interesting work at least some of the time. However there is definitely a limit to this, one gig in particular I sat there every day for the 6 months or whatever it was thinking it just wasnt worth it for any price. I cant remember if your NI or south - theres certainly a lot of big IT companies in the south, probably one of the best places for IT contracting outside london.

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13 minutes ago, JoeDavola said:

Yeah that's part of the reason I stay in my low stress job that I enjoy but isn't the highest paying one out there. The idea that I'd feel like a chump if I end up in another job where I'm miserable or chronically stressed for the sake of an extra 5 or 10K a year. I know someone in their late 50's who spent decades in a really stressful job and many of his peers died before they retired and actually got to enjoy their big pensions.

I left  a very high stress high pay job at 40 because three people at the same company doing similar work had serious medical problems at 50 with two dying.

Even in nominal terms I'm only on two thirds of that package now; real terms it's going to be more like half.  I'm happy with that deal.

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