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From a time long long ago, when the dhithole areas were occupied by dysfunctional Brits.


Not a happy ending

In 2011 the man who created the graffiti turned up. His name was Jason and yes, he had been in love with Clare and had wanted to marry her. Although he suffered from vertigo, his 6’6″ height meant that he could lean over the parapet of the walkway and spray paint his message.

At a height of over 130 ft above the ground, it could be seen from the local cinema where he took Clare and pointed out his message to her. She accepted his proposal. But both Jason and Clare were troubled people with unsettled histories.

Clare had children from previous relationships and was under the care of social services. She also had a drug habit. Jason had been brought up in a series of children’s homes where he had been abused. The social services warned Clare that Jason would not be the right person for her.

She was told that she should forget him and concentrate on the well-being of her children. What sort of father would he be to them, they asked, in view of his own upbringing? So some months after the romantic and highly public proposal they split up.

Clare died six years later

She married someone else and died of cancer when she was just thirty years old. Today her sister says that she wishes that the graffiti had been removed rather than illuminated – it is a constant reminder that she lost her elder sister at such a young age.

Jason, on the other hand, would have liked to have seen Clare’s name illuminated as well because without it the message is just impersonal and means nothing. He said ““You can’t leave one off without another, it was written as one purpose. If they’re gonna keep it, they’ve gotta keep all of it. This wasn’t to anybody this was wrote specifically for Clare.”

The commercialisation of a declaration of love and its sad ending

Park Hill 2

Image credit: lovelondoncouncilhousing.com

Even if Clare had not died so very young, the sight of the graffiti would still be a sad one because the couple didn’t marry; they didn’t live happily ever after. Indeed, their lives were rather sordid, involving drug usage and child abuse. Yet now that message written by Jason has become a symbol of love and freedom – not to mention a free slogan and tag line for a property development company.

This story, which broke in 2011, has become legendary.

But is the story true?

There are some people in Sheffield who claim that I Love You Will U Marry Me part of the message has actually been there since the mid 1970s and that Jason simply added her name in front of the message. And that it was actually written by a woman, not a man.

Even the Sheffield Star, the local paper, said that Clare’s name had been added at a later date. Jason explained that by saying that he realised that he’d written her name too high so began to lean further over the parapet after he’d written the first part. He also said that the discrepancy in the colours are due to the fact that he shook the can of spray paint so that the last part of the message look stronger and brighter.

What do you think?


Image credit: thisfragiletent.com

On August 21st, 2016, the Guardian revisited the story which included an interview with Jason. His story also doesn’t have a happy ending. He lost custody of his children when they were young and recently heard that his son had been imprisoned for murder. Jason lost his job and was in danger of losing his home. He couldn’t find work because of a conviction.

He said that he was delighted that the message he had written had been used on t-shirts and other goods. But he was penniless. In view of the fact that the property company had capitalised on his message, he contacted them in 2014 to see if they would let him have one of the newly refurbished apartments. They did not reply.



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Very sad story.


I remember thinking those buildings looked menacing when I was a student in Sheffield in the late 70s.  By the railway station I think? (Well before the time of the grafitti obviously!)


I lived on the west side of the city (uni area) in a shared terraced house on an impossibly steep road. Walking up with shopping was quite a struggle!

Jack the Yorkshire Ripper was operating at that time too. Good times ...

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