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http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-5376073/Mother-crying-baby-asked-leave-south-London-cafe.html

A mother with a three-month-old baby was asked to temporarily leave a trendy south London cafe because the child's crying was annoying customers. 

Staff approached the woman at the Brick House Bakery in East Dulwich, South London, and requested she stepped outside to settle the upset infant.  

Owner Fergus Jackson told MailOnline: ‘Parents have a responsibility to look after their children. We are a cafe, not a creche.'  

A row broke out on social media hours after the mother told her friends she was suddenly asked to leave the trendy bakery.  



I’m with the cafe on this, what do you think?  

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Im with cafe.

Theres grizzling, crying and screaming the fuck.

Thens theres how long.

Some kids go on for fucking ever - just slap the brat, guve it something to cry about.

 

Id not go in a trendy cafe in london  mind 

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I’m with the cafe.

When my kids were at the baby/small infant stage I was often outside a place trying to soothe/settle them before going back in where ever I was.

I loathe hearing crying kids if I’m paying for a coffee/ meal/or at any social gathering. I’ve noticed these days though that many people think it’s ok for their kid to disturb the peace.

IMO it’s about respect for others. Crying/screaming kids are annoying. I’ve often heard it said it’s different when it’s your own. LOL....cry more I love it...NOT! I didn’t enjoy the crying stage of my kids plus I removed them from social places or occasions so no I don’t want to listen to anyone else’s screamers.

The cafe is right, the parent is wrong IMO.

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2 minutes ago, Frank Hovis said:

The mother; though purely because selfishly I am entirely able to tune out a crying child.

If it was badly behaved toddlers in question then I'm with the cafe.

It may be a man thing as I can’t stand the sound of screaming kids. I’ve been known to walk out of places. It just does my head in. 

It might have something to do with having to get up in the middle of the night for years. Now, if I am socialising, no ta. 

1 minute ago, Economic Exile said:

I’m with the cafe.

When my kids were at the baby/small infant stage I was often outside a place trying to soothe/settle them before going back in where ever I was.

I loathe hearing crying kids if I’m paying for a coffee/ meal/or at any social gathering. I’ve noticed these days though that many people think it’s ok for their kid to disturb the peace.

IMO it’s about respect for others. Crying/screaming kids are annoying. I’ve often heard it said it’s different when it’s your own. LOL....cry more I love it...NOT! I didn’t enjoy the crying stage of my kids plus I removed them from social places or occasions so no I don’t want to listen to anyone else’s screamers.

The cafe is right, the parent is wrong IMO.

Top post EE 

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1 minute ago, One percent said:

It may be a man thing as I can’t stand the sound of screaming kids. I’ve been known to walk out of places. It just does my head in. 

It might have something to do with having to get up in the middle of the night for years. Now, if I am socialising, no ta. 

Top post EE 

Yes @Frank Hovisis a top top bloke and valued Dosbods poster on many topics.

Out of his experience on this one though IMO.

You nailed it @One percentYears of sleepless nights, outings interrupted, plans thwarted.

100% agree, when socialising, no crying kids. The parents just have to realise that life is very different until your kids are old enough to be educated about how to behave in public!

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1 minute ago, One percent said:

It may be a man thing as I can’t stand the sound of screaming kids. I’ve been known to walk out of places. It just does my head in. 

It might have something to do with having to get up in the middle of the night for years. Now, if I am socialising, no ta. 

It may just be me.

I was having an appraisal in a cafe with my woman boss, mother of two kids aged about twenty, and there was a screaming child on the table behind.

I genuinely wasn't aware of it after the first couple of minutes but it was so putting her off that we had to move; when she said that my response was "Why?" as I genuinely wasn't noticing it.

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Just now, Frank Hovis said:

It may just be me.

I was having an appraisal in a cafe with my woman boss, mother of two kids aged about twenty, and there was a screaming child on the table behind.

I genuinely wasn't aware of it after the first couple of minutes but it was so putting her off that we had to move; when she said that my response was "Why?" as I genuinely wasn't noticing it.

Yep.  It might be a female thing then but I’m sure that before kids I wasn’t as sensitive 

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1 minute ago, Frank Hovis said:

It may just be me.

I was having an appraisal in a cafe with my woman boss, mother of two kids aged about twenty, and there was a screaming child on the table behind.

I genuinely wasn't aware of it after the first couple of minutes but it was so putting her off that we had to move; when she said that my response was "Why?" as I genuinely wasn't noticing it.

LOL!

An occasional occurrence is bearable to many.

Trust me, bringing up babies is fucking trying. They cry a lot. They become infants and still cry a lot. When they get to pre school age you feel you’re getting there with teaching appropriate social behaviour. I would not want to be a primary school teacher. Especially these days a lot arrive at school still wearing nappies!

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4 minutes ago, One percent said:

Yep.  It might be a female thing then but I’m sure that before kids I wasn’t as sensitive 

 

Just now, Economic Exile said:

LOL!

An occasional occurrence is bearable to many.

Trust me, bringing up babies is fucking trying. They cry a lot. They become infants and still cry a lot. When they get to pre school age you feel you’re getting there with teaching appropriate social behaviour. I would not want to be a primary school teacher. Especially these days a lot arrive at school still wearing nappies!

Don't get me wrong; I fully understand why it is a problem.  Though I would have thought that mothers who had been through it would be more, rather than less, sympathetic and not putting the boot into the cafe owner.

At root I can probably easily tune it out because I do not need to consider if a crying baby is crying for me to help them.  My loss.

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I enjoy the sound of a baby screaming its head off in a public place because it isn't mine.

I remember how horrendous it was when our kids screamed, and the sound of somebody elses kids screaming makes me so pleased that its not my problem.

Having said that, there comes a point when the mother/father should do the decent thing and take the sprog outside.

P

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23 minutes ago, One percent said:

It may be a man thing as I can’t stand the sound of screaming kids. I’ve been known to walk out of places. It just does my head in. 

It might have something to do with having to get up in the middle of the night for years. Now, if I am socialising, no ta. 

Top post EE 

Well I am a man and I find the sound of screaming children is like fingernails scratched down a blackboard. It has the ability to penetrate even the most sound proof head phones. I can put up with it on short train journeys but for anything longer I vacate the carriage.  I never cease to be amazed at the lung capacity and stamina of children when it comes to wailing. Obviously young infants have no other means of communicating their needs but toddlers are something else

Edited by Virgil Caine

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4 minutes ago, Virgil Caine said:

Well I am a man and I find the sound of screaming children is like fingernails scratched down a blackboard. It has the ability to penetrate even the most sound proof head phones. I can put up with it on short train journeys but for anything longer I vacate the carriage.  I never cease to be amazed at the lung capacity and stamina of children when it clones to wailing. Obviously young infants have no other means of communicating their needs but toddlers are something else

Bugger out of reps 👍 exactly. 

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^^^

above two posts

yes it’s great when you know you don’t have to respond to the crying or screaming baby/infant.....a relief, lots to be thankful for!

however, my point is that I didn’t annoy others with my babies/infants crying or screaming...I took them out the social place.

therefore my expectation is that other parents will deal with that stage themselves and not expect others to endure it.

perhaps parents are more sensitive and ultimately rejecting of screaming kids through dealing with it over several years.

Edited by Economic Exile

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1 minute ago, Economic Exile said:

^^^

above two posts

yes it’s great when you know you don’t have to respond to the crying or screaming baby/infant.....a relief, lots to be thankful for!

however, my point is that I didn’t annoy others with my babies/infants crying or screaming...I took them out the social place.

therefore my expectation is that other parents will deal with that stage themselves and not expect others to endure it.

perhaps parents are more sensitive and ultimately rejecting of screaming kids through dealing with it over several years.

👍 exactly. I also found that I didn’t enjoy going out for meals when they were young. Just too stressful so I found other things to do with them. 

Just now, Happy Renting said:

I'm with the bakery. The cafe got it wrong.

 

Have I got that right?

Yes 

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1 minute ago, Virgil Caine said:

They say the elderly are a burden but unless they have senile dementia they are a doddle to look after compared to kids.

LOL!

Very true. Older folks can be difficult but bringing up babies/toddlers is an experience I’m really grateful that I will never have to repeat!

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4 minutes ago, Happy Renting said:

Some brandy in the child's milk would have solved everything.

Or just gripe water:

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The original Woodward's Gripe Water contained 3.6% alcohol, dill oil, sodium bicarbonate, sugar, and water. Woodward registered "Gripe Water" as a trademark in 1876. It was initially marketed with theslogan "Granny told Mother and Mother told me."

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gripe_water

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11 minutes ago, Virgil Caine said:

They say the elderly are a burden but unless they have senile dementia they are a doddle to look after compared to kids.

Nope.

Odd kids are a pain. Most are managle - sugar pending.

Most OAP are way off the cuntometer.

 

Besides, its still socially acceotabke to slap a kid.

Punching out out a difficult oap attracts comments.

Edited by spygirl

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We actively avoid places with young children. Haven't got the tolerance to listen to other people's screaming babies. If the baby was screaming more than a couple of minutes then the cafe was correct. 

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It's about consideration which seems to be increasingly lacking in some quarters.  Most people will accept some distraction if the parents recognise the distraction and are trying to do something about it. 

If the screaming (and often general misbehaviour) becomes excessive and impinging and the parents seem oblivious to ruining other peoples enjoyment then yes they should be shown the door until it's not a problem.

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30 minutes ago, twocents said:

It's about consideration which seems to be increasingly lacking in some quarters.  Most people will accept some distraction if the parents recognise the distraction and are trying to do something about it. 

If the screaming (and often general misbehaviour) becomes excessive and impinging and the parents seem oblivious to ruining other peoples enjoyment then yes they should be shown the door until it's not a problem.

Top post. 

And it’s the ones who are a bit older that really boil my blood. The parents saying, don’t do that, innefectually whilst the kid disturbs everyone else. 

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